Kindness Isn't Optional: Combatting the Culture of Casual Cruelty

By Malik Thompson, 11th Grade | Mission Bay High School
LYBA Member | Aspiring Social Psychologist | Community Advocate

These days, it seems easier than ever to say something without thinking—especially online. We scroll, react, comment, and swipe, often forgetting there’s a human being on the other side of the screen. But the truth is, words leave marks, even when they're typed instead of spoken.

I’ve seen it happen too many times: jokes that turn into bullying, sarcasm that cuts too deep, and comments meant to be “funny” that humiliate someone in front of the whole class. We call it “casual,” but there’s nothing casual about cruelty. And as students, we need to start taking responsibility for how we treat one another.

Through LLUXXALL and the Youth Board of Advisors, I’ve learned that etiquette isn’t just about using the right fork at dinner—it’s about how you treat people when it matters most. Grace under pressure. Respect in disagreement. Dignity in every interaction.

What if we started measuring strength not by how savage our comebacks are, but by how thoughtful and composed we stay under fire? What if we praised people for being peacemakers instead of pushing buttons?

One of my goals as a LYBA member is to host a workshop at my school called “Pause Before You Post.” It’s a short session focused on digital etiquette, emotional intelligence, and how to build your online presence with integrity. I believe this kind of conversation is long overdue, especially among teens.

Social change starts in small ways—in the group chat, the classroom, the lunch table. And it starts with us.

Because in a world full of noise, kindness is still radical.