Confidence in the Classroom: How Etiquette Helped Me Find My Voice
By Sofia Ramirez, 9th Grade | San Diego School of Creative and Performing Arts
LYBA Member | Theater Student | Youth Speaker
Growing up, I always loved to perform. I’ve been in plays since I was in second grade. But there’s a big difference between memorizing lines on stage and speaking up in real life—especially in a classroom full of strong opinions and fast-paced discussions.
When I first started high school, I was surprised at how nervous I felt raising my hand or presenting projects. I worried about sounding unsure or making a mistake. I wanted to speak with the same confidence I had when I was playing a character—but this time, as myself.
That’s when I joined LLUXXALL and began learning about etiquette, body language, and communication. I quickly realized that confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you can build. Through posture, tone, and eye contact, I started practicing how to carry myself with calmness and clarity, even when I felt unsure inside.
One of the biggest things that helped me was learning how to pause and breathe before speaking. It sounds simple, but that one skill gave me the space to collect my thoughts instead of rushing or apologizing before I even began. I also started viewing every classroom moment—whether it was a group debate or a one-on-one with a teacher—as a chance to refine how I express myself.
Now, I’m not only more confident in school, but I’ve also started speaking at community events through the LLUXXALL Youth Board of Advisors (LYBA). I’ve written and delivered short talks about teen communication and even helped lead a middle school workshop on first impressions.
If there’s one thing I want other teens to know, it’s that your voice matters—but it’s your presence that gives it power. Thanks to LLUXXALL, I’ve learned how to walk into a room, take a breath, and speak with purpose. And now, I’m not just performing—I’m being heard.Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.